When It Makes Sense Not to Give a F*

Here’s my most recent piece for Scary Mommy, about how I made a conscious choice not to care so much on the day of my nephew’s bar mitzvah.  What I’ve learned–and what I share with my patients–is that we parents often find ourselves in situations in which we simply cannot have control (like, for example, a bar mitzvah on a party boat). In such situations, we have to learn to relax our standards, or risk significant frustration and overwhelm.